Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let no man put asunder – Matthew 19:6.
Marriage was ordained by God, and it’s sacred. When you mess with a marriage, whether it’s through one spouse, both, or someone outside of the marriage, you’re messing with the plan of God and will have to answer to God.
Marriage is work, and it takes two to make it work. A marriage can have love and not happiness. You can love your mate, and they love you, but there is no happiness because there has been a breach in the marriage due to busy schedules, taking care of the children, as well as taking each other for granted and not working on the marriage to keep it strong.
Happiness is when both parties work on satisfying each other’s needs. Society claims it should be fifty percent for each spouse to make the marriage work, but it should be a hundred percent for the husband as well as the wife. When a person gives their all to make their spouse happy, both will be happy and satisfied. One way of keeping happiness in marriage is through open communication.
Now and then, ask your spouse if there’s anything you can do to make your relationship better. Don’t be hurt when they begin to tell you what they would like to see in the marriage. Likewise, you should also tell your husband what you would like him to do to better your marriage, say it with respect and loving-kindness. If either spouse is being irritated by their spouse’s actions, it should be confronted; if not, it will bring resentment, along with anger.
Our spouse is to be our best friend, and we should be able to talk to them about anything. Try to avoid arguments at every cost. One can disagree, but do it with gentleness and respect while you’re voicing your opinion on why you disagree. The way we voice our opinion through disrespect will be loud and boisterous, with body language that will cause them to be defensive because they’re defending their manhood.
Always keep in mind, Satan doesn’t want marriage, nor does he want unity. Satan will try to bring division, mistrust, selfishness, strife, and contention. He will bring anything and anyone that will destroy your relationship. Just like a car needs a tune-up, every marriage needs a tune-up, and you will find that out by asking your spouse, what can you do to better the relationship. This will let him know you’re concerned about the marriage as well as your relationship with each other, and also allow him to express his feelings.
Pray for your spouse, speak life over him, don’t speak negatively or think negatively about them, thoughts will become actions. Pray and ask God to help you, how to encourage your spouse, how to minister to him, and how to make your marriage have life. God knows your spouse better than you will ever know him because He’s the one who created Him.
God ordained marriage for one partner for life; Satan comes to bring division and disunity. Women who pray ask God to give them the insight that’s needed to keep a strong and healthy marriage. If we keep our relationship in good standing with God, He will teach us how to keep our relationship with our husband, and will remove anything and everything that needs to be destroyed and place what’s needed in the marriage to make it what He designed marriage to be. Marriage should be honored and not tolerated!
Marriage can be just as much fun and happiness after twenty, thirty, or forty years and even longer because when it’s true love and not lust, after different body parts are not working like they were when you were younger, the love is still there, the friendship is better, everything gets better with time. True love never dies, honor your marriage, and allow God to work out any kinks. He specializes, He can do what no other can do! God wants your marriage to be healthy and strong, loving and being together until death. If you’re willing to make your marriage better, God will give you what you need. Don’t just ask God to change your spouse, ask Him to change you as well.