For wisdom is better than rubies; and all the things that may be desired are not to be compared to it – Proverbs 8:11.
Wisdom can help you think clearly; it’s good judgment and carefulness. Often wisdom is not used when it comes to dating.
It’s understandable to marry; you have to date, and some desire to date without finding someone to marry; either one is good if that’s what you choose, but when dating, you should use sound judgment on your first date. The person can make you think he’s prince charming riding on a white horse, but inwardly he’s a wolf in sheep’s clothing.
It is not wise to go on a date with someone that no one knows about this person but you; sorry to say, many have gone on dates like that, and they never returned home, and their loved ones never saw them again alive.
It can be tragic to date someone you meet on social media or dating sites without researching them and finding out more about them than what they tell you. That also goes for someone you met in public. Sometimes, people think they don’t have to tell anyone about who they are with or their whereabouts because they are adults. It’s just wise to let someone know just in case something happens; at least they will be able to tell the police who you said you were with.
There have been so many cases of women coming up missing or dead on that first date, and they kept it a secret. The police had no clue in who to check who they were with. This is not to scare you from dating; it’s to make you think and stay safe.
You should meet somewhere in public and drive yourself, so you will not be taken somewhere you don’t want to be. It’s not wise to invite this person to your home, get to know the person before inviting them to your safe place. As a Christian, they shouldn’t be coming to your home (But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfill the lusts thereof – Romans 13:14).This is how many have been led into situations they wish they never allowed themselves to get in. You can’t play with fire and think you will not be burned.
Sometimes, even with the second or third date, the person can be other than what you think they are. God has given everyone intuition, whether they are believers or non-believers. When you feel something is not right, even though you can’t clearly say what it is, that’s your intuition giving you notice that something is off, and you should pay attention to it.
It’s better to be cautious than to be sorry!