A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger – Proverbs 15:1.
Often it is not so much what we say but the way we say it that prompts anger in someone else.
There is so much anger and hurt in the world today; we must be cautious about not participating in it by angering or hurting someone. We always keep in mind how we want people to respond to us.
Marriages are under attack; this attack is more spiritual than natural because Satan knows marriage was ordained by God, it is sacred, and the husband and wife should respect it. Never think there will not be a time you will disagree with your spouse, but how you disagree will either bring peace or strife.
You don’t have to have the last word; yes, you should speak what you think is right or what is best, but you do it with humility, mind, and spirit. You can be right, but having the wrong tone in your voice will bring about strife.
This is also true when talking to your children, coworkers, and neighbors. We can either bring peace into the situation or strife and resentment. It’s in your hands to bring the conversation to peace. We can disagree without bringing anger into the situation.
Think about what you’re going to say before speaking it. When in a heated conversation, you can pray inwardly, asking the Father to word your speech and calm your spirit. You can change a no to a yes by how you approach a person.
Examine yourself before trying to examine someone else. Think about how you want the situation resolved without anger, strife, or resentment.