Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife sees that she reverence (respects) her husband – Ephesians 5:33.
Isn’t it amazing when you first fell in love with your spouse, you could find nothing wrong with them? You could always find things to talk about, things to do, and places to go.
Your spouse was your best friend, someone you could talk to about anything and have the confidence they had your best interest at heart. They were the first person you called when you had an idea or saw something that reminded them of your spouse.
You called each other two or three times a day. Years have passed, and the person you loved has become someone you no longer desire to be around because you or your spouse has allowed Satan to plant division in your relationship and or has allowed another individual to enter into the marriage covenant.
Satan will have you looking and desiring someone other than your spouse; he will make you think what you’re looking at or desiring is better than what you have at home. The person you married is the same person you fell in love with, but you have allowed lust to enter your emotions, and it’s causing havoc for you as well as your marriage.
When someone approaches you other than your spouse offering friends with benefits, know that Satan has sent the individual to destroy you and your marriage. If your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, you and your spouse can make it the way you desire it to be. You both have a part to play in the marriage; don’t blame your spouse; check yourself and see what you have or haven’t done to make your marriage the desired marriage.
When a wife or husband commits adultery, they’re sinning against the principles of God. (Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband – 1st Corinthians 7:2). Fornication is having sexual intercourse between unmarried persons. If the person is not your spouse and belongs to someone else, you’re committing fornication and adultery, and you’re in covetousness.
If a man or woman has knowledge of you being married and they still confront you sexually, this should indicate what type of person they are. The person doesn’t have respect for your spouse or you; if they did, they wouldn’t make sexual advances.
The person doesn’t care what it will do to your reputation or family. Adultery doesn’t only affect the spouse who’s being cheated on. It destroys the relationships of children, grandchildren, family members, and friends. They are people who still respect the covenant of marriage. When God made Eve for Adam, it wasn’t a third party or the same gender.
Just because the majority of society disrespects marriage, marriage will always be honorable before God because He is the one who ordained marriage. Those who commit such acts will one day have to answer to God (But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroys his own soul – Proverbs 6:32).
Anyone outside the marriage covenant lacks knowledge of themselves and the marriage covenant. Marriage between a man and a woman is an example of the marriage covenant Christians have with God. Divorce is rising, and it shouldn’t be, especially among Christians; we know what the Word of God has instructed us to do as a husband and wife. We know that God hates adultery as well as divorce. When we go outside the marriage vow, there is a penalty to pay, whether you’re a believer or nonbeliever.
Nothing is hidden from God; you may hide it from your husband or wife, but God sees your wrong against your spouse (Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife {husband} of thy youth, against whom thou has dealt treacherously: yet is she {he} is thy companion and the wife {husband) of thy covenant – Malachi 2:14)
When you marry, you covenant with God and your spouse. God is not going to tell you three or four years in the marriage or longer; he has someone else for you, your flesh is talking to you and so is Satan (Marriage is honorable in all (among), and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers {fornicators) and adulterers God will judge – Hebrews 13:4). Why play Russian roulette with your life, that’s what you’re doing every time you’re with someone other than your spouse?
Married couples have to be watchful and know Satan’s tricks and schemes; rather than fighting each other, you should be fighting Satan, and you can only do that through the Spirit of God dwelling within your being. Don’t give up on your spouse or your marriage. Fight the good fight of faith. When God allowed you to marry, you came into a covenant with God, whether that was the one God wanted you to marry. God honors His Word.
Marriage is symbolic of the church. The marital responsibility of husbands is to love their wives, willfully and sacrificially giving on the husband’s part for the benefit of his wife without the thought of return. God made the man head of his wife; being the head brings responsibilities. The wife is to submit to her husband, that is, in every area of life and every issue that may arise, whether she may agree to it or not. (Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything – Ephesians 5:24).
Scripture predicates everything to husbands who fear God. The church is subject to Christ. Christ will not influence or tell us to do anything contrary to the Word of God. Whether it is our spouse or someone else, if it’s contrary to the Word of God, we should not allow them to influence us to sin against God.
True love will never die, no matter what the person has done or is doing or how old the marriage is. True love grows more with time; true love forgives. We will not forget because our brain is like a computer; it holds memory, but whatever someone has done to us will no longer affect our emotions when we forgive from the heart.
Satan does not want you to forgive; he wants you to hold on to unforgiveness as though it were some blanket. When you forgive, you free yourself and the individual. God has seen what has happened and is aware of your hurt. Allow God to heal the hurt and deal with your spouse.
You chose your spouse, so there must have been something there that attracted you to them. Whatever it was, think about it; refresh your thoughts towards your spouse. Concentrate on the good things about them and release the wrong things.
Pray and ask God how to minister to your spouse and help your spouse minister to you. Don’t allow someone else to come into your marriage and do what your spouse should do for you. Love your spouse until you love the hell out of them. Love them until you heal the insecurity out of them; love them until God makes you and your spouse whole!