In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness (propriety) and sobriety (moderation); not with braided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; but which becometh (proper for) women professing godliness with good works – 1st Timothy 2:9-10.
When we dress, we should take a good look at what we’re putting on. Our dress attire tells a lot about us. As women and especially women who profess to be Christians, we should not want to dress to attract attention to ourselves. We can dress and look good without being provocative. When we dress provocatively, it should be with our husbands in our homes. We shouldn’t try seducing anyone except our husbands. When we dress to bring attention to ourselves, we’re asking for trouble, and when you seek trouble, you will find it. We need to stop and think about what will be the consequences of our actions.
Many women have been involved with men they thought would be with them for the rest of their lives, but the man they were with only became a one-night stand or a weekend romance. That one-night stand and weekend romance became a medical problem for them for the rest of their lives.
Being provocative to someone other than your husband can cause a complete change in your life and the lives of others; children and family lives are being changed drastically because the parent has been diagnosed with STDs. We need to think and take control of our hormones, prayer will not take away the urge, but it will give us the strength not to commit the act.
Sisters, we know when we’re trying to entice men and being godly women, it shouldn’t be in our character. Non-believers think they must find the man rather than the man finding them. When we pray for a husband, God will not send someone who will try to dishonor our bodies. Our bodies were bought with a price that neither you nor I could ever repay.
The Bible instructs us when a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. Sisters, whether we’re believers or non-believers, God’s principles which are His Word, will never change. The man is to find the wife.
God will never bless something that goes against His holy character. He’s not going to bless a relationship that is not between a husband and a wife; no matter how you’re praying for it, it will not happen.
Also, keep in mind when a man is looking for a wife, he’s looking for someone he can trust; if the woman is showing herself to everyone, he’s not going to trust her, and if he’s the kind of man they want a woman to show everything, he’s not the man you should want to marry. If he wants you to expose yourself to others, you need to think about what else he may want you to do.
As women of God, we should dress moderately; always remember, if Jesus was standing next to you when you dress, would you wear what you’re wearing? Cleavage and tight clothing aren’t the proper way to dress when attending church. You’re attending church to get your relationship right with God, not to find a husband.
Both single and married men will be enticed; their minds will no longer be on God but fantasizing about what they’re looking at. As women and especially women professing to be Christians, we have to help men, whether they are single or married, to be faithful to God, themselves, and their wives. Many men think below their waist, and God holds women responsible for their actions.
A spiritual relationship with the Father has been destroyed because women have disregarded their bodies through fornication and adultery. Our bodies were bought with a price, and God doesn’t want our bodies to be used for gratification other than marriage; gratification to oneself is also against the principles of God. Modest dressing doesn’t mean you’re dressing as a mummy. Everything is covered up; this doesn’t mean godliness either; many have covered up from head to toe and uncovered themselves with men that weren’t their husbands. Modest dressing is a heart matter; what’s in the heart will be manifested on the outside.
You don’t have an urge that can’t be controlled; God is just a prayer away. He’s waiting for you to ask Him for help. He’s waiting on you to present yourselves as women of God! As Christian women, find someone in the church you can confide in that will not tell your failures but pray with you until you can present your body as a living sacrifice.
God loves you dearly; He wants you to present yourself as His daughter!