If it be possible, as much as lieth [depends on you] in you, live peaceably with all men – Romans 12:18.

It’s our Christian duty to pursue peace with everyone, but there will come times when, no matter what you do, you cannot maintain peace with certain individuals.

As Christians, God has given us the spirit of reconciliation not only with Him, but with others. When we’re dealing with difficulty, people before talking with them, we should pray and ask the Lord to word our mouths. Give us what to say and what not to say. This way, you’re giving the Lord a partnership in the conversation.

Many times we’re hearing the person, but not listening, and when we do listen, we’re listening with past hurt and anger. Old baggage only brings about new baggage that will continue to bring difficulties in the conversation and with the person.

Pride always wants us to retaliate; I’m not going to let you say this or talk to me that way. The Bible says what lieth within you, meaning it depends on you to try to keep the peace when the other person is trying to get an argument, or even downplay your intelligence.

If God were to do us the way we do others, we would have more tolerance in dealing with difficult people, especially when they are a family member or a relative. When we’re listening, we can hear the conversation is about to get in a shouting match, words spoken that can’t be retrieved, we can direct the conversation in another direction, if not, we’re only adding fuel to the fire.

When trying to redirect the conversation and the person wants to continue with the conversation, it’s so easy to say, Well, I’m going to have to end the conversation. I will talk with you later, goodbye. This will stop them, and it will stop you from saying words that will not be forgotten or getting you upset.

When we try to handle things in our own strength, we will mess up every time, but when we invite the Prince of Peace into our conversation, He will give peace in difficult conversations and situations.