For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean, but now are they holy – 1st Corinthians 7:14
No one knows why sometimes God will not save husbands and wives simultaneously. Whoever gets saved first must pray for their spouse to receive salvation, no matter how long it takes for the prayer to be answered.
When a wife has completely surrendered to the Lord, it sometimes will cause friction in the marriage because you are no longer serving the same god. One is serving the Creator God, and the other is serving the god of this world.
It does not mean because you have received salvation and your husband hasn’t that, you have to separate or divorce. You must keep in mind you’re not fighting against your husband, but you’re fighting against the spirit that has your husband bound.
You should treat your husband with respect, but you don’t have to submit to him if he’s asking you to do something that is against the principles of God’s Word. This is where the friction will sometimes come in because they don’t understand why you’re not looking, listening, or going the same places you used to go before receiving salvation.
This is when you have to take a stand for what you believe in; either you’re going to serve God, or you going to continue to live the lifestyle before receiving salvation. Once you come in contact with the Lord and He opens your understanding, you will know nothing or no one is worth you going to hell for.
By you submitting to the lifestyle with them prior to receiving salvation will cause them to be confused about true Christianity. You’re an example of Christ; that’s what Christianity means, Christ-like. Pray for yourself and your spouse.
Sometimes, husbands don’t receive salvation until their spouse dies, but the prayer will be answered; although you didn’t reap the benefits of seeing them being saved, they will be saved because God has always been concerned about the family. Sometimes, the husband receives salvation on their deathbed, yet the prayer is answered.
If you’re not being abused physically, adultery is not in the marriage, or they didn’t walk out of the marriage, if God has not instructed you to depart, stay there with your spouse and allow God to show Himself in you and in your marriage. God will enable you to stay with a nonbeliever, and you can find peace in the marriage.
Fast and pray for your husband; never tell them they’re going to hell; show heaven’s lifestyle to them through you. Draw them with lovingkindness, forgive and release unforgiveness and offensives. Speak God’s Word over your marriage, and not the negative.
Satan is against marriages, and he attacks marriages whether both spouses are saved or if there is only one saved. Your job is to stand firm in your marriage, live a godly lifestyle, and allow God to work in your marriage.
Always keep in mind you’re not fighting against your husband; you’re fighting against the spirit that has him bound. The spirit that is within them is fighting against the Spirit that lives within you. Greater is He that lives within you than he that is in the world.
Your marriage may be challenging, but it’s not too hard for God. Don’t give up on your husband or your marriage. Allow God to instruct you in what to say and not say, what to do and not do. Submit yourself to your husband, and place your marriage in God’s hands. What is impossible with you is possible with God!
Submission only means you agree with your husband, you allow him to be the head of the family. Encourging him with your words and lifestyle. Don’t try to play the role of husband when you have one, allow him to be the husband and carryout your role as the wife. Set you affection on God and allow God to save your spouse and make you one not only one in the flesh, but in the Spirit.