And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him Genesis 2:18.
Marriage was ordained by God in the Garden of Eden between a male and a female. God made woman from the rib of Adam, her husband. God’s ideal plan for marriage is one man for one woman for one lifetime.
Although God meant one man for one woman for a lifetime because of our sinful nature, marriage does not always last for a lifetime. Many women are suffering in their marriages emotionally, physically, and mentally. This is not what God wanted it to be.
Women take the burden on themselves when their spouse no longer shows love and affection. When you know you have done everything you know how to make the marriage work, and the spouse is not conforming to your love, don’t blame yourself.
Sadly, to say usually when the spouse shows no love and affection, a third person has entered the marriage. It’s not because you have not been a good wife, don’t allow him or Satan to influence you, that you have not.
If you can talk with your spouse, address the problem, don’t act like it’s not there. This will only bring resentment to yourself, which will cause other emotional problems. Seek marriage counseling with one who is a Christian. Make sure they are true Christians; if not, you will not receive godly counseling.
Most of all, seek God for counseling. He will guide you on what or not to do. Many women have stayed in marriages and they know their spouse no longer loves them, but they are hoping the marriage will be restored.
Not knowing the will of God, they stay in marriages for ten or twenty years while their spouse has left their home in their heart. According to the Bible, he has abandoned the marriage and you. You’re not obligated to him anymore unless God tells you something different. Know the voice of God because your spirit and Satan will speak to you, and have you staying in a marriage you should no longer be in.
Yes, God’s desire is for marriages to be for a lifetime, but if one of the spouses doesn’t want it to be, you can’t make anyone love you. Face reality and go on with your life. Don’t beat yourself or accuse yourself because of a failed marriage.
Get counseling for yourself, talk to someone that you can trust, and walk you through the process you’re going through. Don’t feel as though you don’t need anyone; this is the time you need a true friend who can pray with you .
You need to be able to talk to someone to express your feelings; if not, you will carry the baggage and stay in the bondage of hurt and resentment. Even with a failed marriage, God still loves you, and He wants the best for you.