Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder – Matthew 19:6.
Marriage is something God ordained in the Garden of Eden, and He honors marriages. Marriage is a commitment to God’s commandments and a commitment to the person we marry.
God does not honor sexual relationships without marriage, nor will He bless them. When we do it the right way, we have God on our side. Sometimes marriages suffer emotionally because spouses aren’t taking the time to be with each other. We have to take time to spend with one another to build the relationship, no matter how long you have been married.
With busy schedules, sometimes our home and family get neglected. God never wants us to be so busy that we don’t spend time with our spouse and children. We’re often so busy providing for our children and giving them life opportunities that we fail to realize the greatest gift we can provide for them is for us as parents to love each other honestly and to express that love for one another.
Love is more than words; words of love must be reinforced with actions. Love is something we do! So many times, people judge their love for someone by their emotional feelings. Often, couples believe they have fallen out of love because their romantic feelings have waned. We should certainly have romantic feelings for our spouse, but real love, the agape love, relies not upon feelings, but upon actions. Love accepts many imperfections. Love does not demand perfection from one’s mate.
Don’t marry a person if you think you’re going to change them once you’re married. If you can’t accept the person as they are, don’t marry them. Your spouse should be the one you live with for the rest of your life. So, if there’s something in the person you plan to marry that doesn’t align with your life plans or that really irritates you, then you need not marry that person.
During child-rearing years, couples must maintain their connection with each other; otherwise, when the children leave home, the couple may become strangers, having spent the majority of their time taking care of the children. You have to make time for each other; as we mature, we change, and our mates need to know that change and both walk in agreement with the change for each other.
Stay connected with your spouse, show love, concern, compassion, and respect. Commit to having date nights, keeping the romance in the marriage. If you’re marriage is not what you desire it to be, don’t divorce; invite God into your marriage and allow Him to correct and improve what’s needed. Your marriage is worth saving.