Females are placed in preparation for marriage as soon as they become of age and when they can distinguish the difference in gender. We’re taught how to clean, cook and decorate. How to present ourselves, who to befriend and who not to befriend. Unfortunately, there are many females who weren’t given the privilege of being taught by their mother or someone of an authority figure. Because of this misfortunate, has caused some to have low self-esteem about themselves, and it has also caused some to be promiscuous. Early in childhood, a female should be taught the importance of abstinence and how to present themselves to the opposite gender. Men are attracted to what they see, and if we want the right man, we must present ourselves in moderate apparel. Men will whistle, eyeball, and be sexually gratified by the woman, but when they decide to marry, no matter how their character and behavior maybe, they will look for a woman with character, one who they think they can trust, one who doesn’t show everything she has to get attention.
There are many marriages that have lasted although they had premarital sex, but why take a chance in giving someone your body, by sinning against your body and against God (Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body 1st Corinthians 6:18). Women were created to be attractive to the opposite sex and most women desire to be married, there is a blessing in being married as well as not being married.
Single women have an advantage over those who are married. They can go when and wherever the Lord sends them. They can have a closer relationship with the Lord than those who are married because they can fast anytime they desire to or when the Lord place a fast on them without having to confer with their spouse (Defraud ye not one the other, except it, be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer: and come together again, that Satan tempts you not for your incontinency – 1st Corinthian 7:5).
There are many advantages to being married as well as not being married, both are a blessing from God. Satan tries to make women who have not married think its something wrong with them because they haven’t married, nothing is wrong with them, it could be that God has a plan for them not to marry or it could be they have too high of an expectation that a man can’t provide. God promised, He would give us the desires of our heart, so if one desires to be married, they should first confer with God, and then pray for the husband they desire, be explicate about what you desire in your husband, don’t just ask for a husband.
As Christian women, we have to follow Bible principles in order to receive the blessings God has for us. Sex without marriage is against Bible principles. God is not going to take the desire from you because He designed you to desire sexual pleasure, but He doesn’t want it performed without marriage. Sex is the reason why many Christian women marry because they desire to be sexually active and they don’t want to go against the principles of God.
Marrying for sex is the wrong reason for getting married, as men and women grow older, everything doesn’t work as it did when you were younger, and if either one can’t perform as they once performed and if the marriage was only for sex purposes then one or both will begin to look for gratification outside the bonds of marriage.
Marriage is holy and ordained by God and when it’s disregarded, it causes the consequences of our disobedience to bring physical, emotional, and sometimes mental anguish because of the sin committed. To avoid this, prayer is better than any quick fix. God is very much aware of our physical desires, and He will give you the strength you need to avoid sexual sins. Sex is not love, it’s a pleasure designed by God to give to a husband and wife. If one desires to be married, pray and ask God for a godly husband. God is not going to send a godly husband, to an ungodly woman. So in order to get what we desire, we must come submitted to God’s principles.
As married women, we must be subjected to our husbands to anything that is not the opposite of God’s principles. If it’s against the principles of God, then the wife doesn’t have to come subject to the requestor’s action. Women carrying ministerial titles, the title is for the ministry not for the husband, and it must be left at the church. Husbands are to have dominion over the wife, this doesn’t mean controlling or domineering the wife, he has authority over her, and God has authority over him. Having authority also comes with responsibilities.
Coming subject to your spouse only means you reverence him as your spouse, you talk with him about different decisions that need to be made, purchases without him knowing that can cause an argument as well as causing distrust in the marriage; basically, just treating him the same way you desire to be treated as his wife.
If he’s a godly man, he’s going to take into account the principles of God and his responsibility as the husband. This is why as females we need the mentoring of godly or mature women in our life to teach and direct us on what to look for in a husband and what is our responsibility as women to receive the best God has for us. If we wait on God and keep the principles of God, He will always give us a mate that will be a blessing, a man that loves God, will love his wife, and will be a blessing to their family.
For those who are single and desire to stay single, that’s a good thing according to Apostle Paul ( I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn – 1st Corinthians 7:8-9). As women, it’s our responsibility to talk to our daughters about marriage, ask them what they want in a husband, and what they think a good and bad marriage consists of. If our daughters wish not to be married, we should first ask why not, the reason for the question “why not”, is to find out if they have received a bad example of marriage, then this will give us the opportunity to explain what a good marriage consist of.
Our daughters should be groomed to become a woman, a leading lady that is confident in themselves, who respects themselves and others, a woman that can succeed in everything she does with the help of the Lord, without Him, she can’t accomplish anything! When one has the favor of God upon their lives; the blessing is not just for this world, but for the one to come.
We should teach our daughters how to pray at an early age, prayer opens our understanding of who God is and who we are in Him. Prayer and self-discipline enable one to see the schemes of the enemy and bypass the influence. Women are a creation of God, and He made everyone beautiful!