Females are placed in preparation for marriage as soon as they become of age and when they can distinguish the difference in gender. We’re taught how to clean, cook and decorate. How to present ourselves, who to be friend and who not to be friend. Unfortunately, there are many females who wasn’t given the privilege of being taught by their mother or someone in a authority figure. Because of this misfortunate, it has caused some to have low self-esteem about themselves, and it has also causes some to be promiscuous. Early in childhood, a female should be taught the importance of abstinence and how to present themselves towards the opposite gender. Men are attracted to what they see, and if we want the right man, we must present ourselves in moderate apparel. Men will whistle, eyeball and be sexual gratified by the woman, but when they decide to marry, no matter how their character and behavior maybe, they will look for a woman with character, one who they think they can trust, one who doesn’t show everything she has to get attention.
There are many marriages that has lasted although they had premarital sex, but why take a chance in giving someone your body, by sinning against your body and against God (Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body 1st Corinthians 6:18). Women were created to be attractive to the opposite sex and most women desire to be married. There is a blessing in being married as well as not being married.
Single women have an advantage over those who are married. They can go when and wherever the Lord send them. They can have a closer relationship with the Lord than those who are married because they can fast anytime they desire to or when the Lord place a fast on them without having to confer with their spouse (Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer: and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency – 1st Corinthian 7:5).
There are many advantages in being married as well as not being married, both are a blessing from God. Satan try to make women who have not married think its something wrong them because they haven’t married, nothing is wrong with them, it could be that God has a plan for them not to marry or it could be they have to high of an expectation that a man can’t provide. God promised, He would give us the desires of our heart, so if one desires to be married, they should first confer with God, and then pray for the husband they desire, be explicate about what you desire in your husband, don’t just ask for a husband.
As Christian women, we have to follow Bible principals in order to receive the blessings God has for us. Sex without marriage is against Bible principals. God is not going to take the desire from us because He designed us to desire sexual pleasure, but He doesn’t want it performed without marriage. Sex is the reason why many Christian women marry because they desire to be sexual active and they don’t want to go against the principals of God. Marrying for sex is the wrong reason for getting married, as men and women grow older, everything doesn’t work as they did when you were younger, and if either one can’t perform as they use too, then if the marriage was only for sex purposes then one or both will begin to look for gratification outside the bonds of marriage.
Marriage is holy and ordained by God and when its disregarded, it causes the consequences of our disobedience to bring physical, emotional and sometimes mental anguish because of the sin committed. To avoid this, prayer is better than any quick fix. God is very much aware of our physical desires, and He will give us the strength we need to avoid sexual sins. Sex is not love, it’s a pleasure designed by God to give to a husband and wife. If one desires to be married, pray and ask God for a godly husband. God is not going to send a godly husband, to an ungodly woman. So in order to get what we desire, we must come submitted to God’s principals.
As married women, we must be subjected to our husbands to anything that is not opposite of God’s principals. If it’s against the principals of God, then the wife doesn’t have to come subject to the request or action. Women carrying ministerial titles, the title is for the ministry not for the husband, and it must be left at the church. Husbands are to have dominion over the wife, this doesn’t mean controlling or domineering the wife, he’s has authority over her, and God has authority over him. If he’s a godly man, he’s going to take in account the principals of God and his responsibility as the husband. This is why as females we need the mentoring of godly or mature women in our life to teach and direct us in what to look for in a husband and what is our responsibility as woman to receive the best God has for us. If we wait on God, and keep the principals of God, He will always give us a mate that will be a blessing, a man that loves God, will love his wife and will be a blessing to their family.
For those who are single and desire to stay single, that’s a good thing according to Apostle Paul ( I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn – 1st Corinthians 7:8-9). As women, its our responsibility to talk to our daughters about marriage, ask them what do they want in a husband, what do they think a good and bad marriage consist of. If our daughters wishes not to be married, we should first ask why not, the reason for the question “why not”, this is to find out if they have received a bad example of marriage, then this will give us the opportunity to explain what a good marriage consist of.
Our daughters should be groomed to become a woman, a leading lady that is confident in herself, one that respects herself and others, a woman that can succeed in everything she does with the help of the Lord, without Him we can’t accomplish nothing!