Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created – Genesis 5:2
The first marriage was in the Garden of Eden when God brought Adam his wife. God’s ideal plan for marriage is one man for one woman for one lifetime. God’s pattern for marital happiness is evident when a man loves and leads his family with children who obey and reverence their parents. A wife who respects and supports her husband’s leadership; a mutually supportive attitude must characterize both husband and wife if they are to succeed in building a harmonious home.Marriage was ordained by God in the Garden of Eden, and Satan has been trying to influence couples ever since. Satan was the one who influenced the woman to eat of the forbidden fruit, and she influenced her husband to eat. Many times as women we influence our husband to take of the forbidden fruit when we don’t respect them in their leadership. I’m not condoning adultery, but when we don’t respect them in the role God has given them we can influence them in something that will be heartbreaking. God is the One that said a man should not be alone (And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him – Genesis 2:18). This is not giving the approval for fornication, this is why God brought Adam his wife.
Marriage has been attacked ever since it was approved in the Garden of Eden; Satan hates marriage, and he will do anything that he can to destroy it. God hates divorce, and if God hates divorce, He is definitely on the side of any person wanting to save his or her marriage. If Satan can’t get a divorce in your marriage, he will sometime use the wife being disrespected by her husband or abused by the husband with words, or rejection. As a wife you have to always keep in mind, God does not want you to be abused or misused in any form or fashion. God will allow what you allow. As a wife, you have to pray and ask God to give you the wisdom you need to communicate to your husband. Stand up for what is right, but communicate it in a way that will not be offensive to the hearer.
Some women are being abused financially, and they aren’t aware they are being abused. Sure, when making a big purchase it’s no more than right to talk it over with him before purchasing it, but for every cent you receive, you have to ask for it then it’s not right. Even if a wife is not working, the husband should give her allowance to work with weekly or monthly without her having to ask. It’s good to be independent that way you’re making financial provisions for yourself as well as assisting your husband with financial affairs. Just as a wife is a blessing to her husband, the husband should also be a blessing to his wife. Only God knows the heart of your husband, but He will give you the wisdom and knowledge you need in how to communicate to your husband without destroying the marriage relationship.
Whatever is going on in your marriage, you feel is wrong, you can defeat it through prayer and faith. Your spouse is not the problem, spiritual wickedness in high places is the influence (For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places – Ephesians 6:12). Is your husband flesh and blood? Yes, of course, so God is saying that your battle is not against each other but against the four classifications of demonic powers. He is a spirit, he has a soul and lives in a body; the real him is his spirit. His spirit is governed by spiritual forces; there are two sources of spiritual motivation, the Holy Spirit and Satan and his co-host. Just as Eve was influenced, husband’s are also influenced by evil spirits. As a godly woman and wife, you have to pray for your husband no matter what he’s doing; this will invite God to come into the problem. Your husband is a blessing from God and Satan wants the relationship destroyed.
Your husband is the same person you fell in love with, he’s being influenced by demonic powers that can be destroyed by the power of prayer and faith. Don’t give up on your marriage, trust God and allow God to do what you think will never work. It is God’s desire for a husband and wife to love one another and enjoy one each other. When you’re married, you have God on your side, and He will make what is impossible, possible.