And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery – Mark 10:11-12.
God established the home even before the church. God intended the home to be heaven on earth. It is an example of the relationship He desires for His church.
A home can’t be united when division, control, and domineering have crept in. God doesn’t want either spouse to be controlled by the other. When we come against each other, we really are coming against ourselves because, according to the Bible, when married, we’re no longer two but one flesh.
We’re living in days when homes have been torn asunder by divorce. We’re living in days where Satan is especially attacking the homes of ministers and those who hold places of authority in the church. This attack is not only in the church but with world leaders to bring division and shame to their positions, whether it’s natural or spiritual.
According to the Word of God, sin is a disgrace or shame (Righteousness exalteth a nation: but sin is a reproach to any people – Proverbs 14:34). Some homes are destroyed because a husband or wife has adapted themselves to somebody else’s wife or husband, submitting ourselves to the Word of God would eliminate this behavior. If we treat our husbands according to the Word of God, it will touch his heart. A real Christian attitude in a wife, especially towards an unsaved husband, will make him eventually one day want Jesus to be their Savior.
This doesn’t mean he will be saved during your lifetime, but because you have treated your spouse according to the Word of God and prayed for his salvation, God will honor your prayer. There have been numerous times when an unsaved husband gave their life to the Lord at their wife’s funeral. Our concern should be as long as they receive salvation, whether in our lifetime or after death.
Too many times, we allow Satan to rule in our homes rather than our husbands. To rule only means God has given Him the authority to be in leadership and as a wife, we should be submissive to his authority as long as it’s not going against the Word of God.
As a believer in Jesus Christ, we must fight Satan, not our spouse, to protect what God has given us. Pray for your spouse, and speak Scripture over your husband and marriage. God hears His Word being spoken, and He brings it into manifestation. With the onslaughter of marriages as wives, we must be as keen to Satan’s spirit as we are to God’s Spirit. When praying against the spirit of Satan that manifests through our spouse, as a wise woman, we don’t have to rebuke Satan out loud, but in our spirit, we can rebuke every ungodly spirit that manifests itself through our spouse and in our home.
When going into warfare, the reaction may not be immediate, but as we continue to go into warfare, ungodly spirits must become subject to you (Notwithstanding in this rejoice not, that the spirits are subject unto you; but rather rejoice because your names are written in heaven – Luke 10:20). Every ungodly behavior or action being manifested through our spouse or children can be made to come subject to the Word of God when we speak the Word of God and live according to the Word of God.
Prayerful women are sensitive to the voice and the Spirit of God they also are sensitive when an ungodly spirit is being manifested through their spouse, children and even themselves. When our actions or behavior is opposite of the Word of God, we’re being anti, which means a person opposed to something, being hostile, or preventing rivaling.
As Christians, we sometimes allow Satan to use our emotions and pride to keep from saying we’re wrong. Humbleness of heart and spirit will keep our hearts and minds towards the things of God which will make us allow the Word of God to reign in every area of our life. Marriage is sacred whether the persons are a believer or non-believer, and this is why Satan attacks it. Marriages can be saved, but we must want to fight for our marriage, and the fight is through prayer and fasting. Receiving instructions from our Father. Love your husband, honor him, and respect him. When we do, we are being submissive to the Word of God, and in return, we have the Father and the angels fighting on our behalf.
When we submit ourselves to God and His Word, He will give instructions on ministering to our husband. Ministering can be by way of sitting watching a football game or basketball, ministering can come by way of just sitting having a casual conversation. What concerns you in your marriage also concerns God. Talk to Him about your marriage, follow His instructions and you will see your marriage is built on a solid foundation, that foundation is the Word of God. God honors His Word, so when we submit ourselves according to the Word of God, He will correct what is wrong.
He will make crookedness become straight, deceitfulness into honesty. Don’t give up on your husband or marriage; take it to God in prayer. Listen for instructions, instructions may come verbally from God, His Word or other avenues, but He will give you instructions, you have to be attentive to when He’s giving you instructions and how or who He’s using to give the instructions you need. When we do it God’s way, God will fight every battle when we take it to God and not try to take the battle ourselves!