Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant – Malachi 2:14.
Adultery is committed not only with husbands, but wives also commit adultery. The above Scripture is not just for wives, but for wives that have also committed adultery. Society uses the word “Affair” to make it seem less harmless, but the Bible calls it “Adultery”.
Women are just as vulnerable as men when it comes to being seduced if they’re not watchful and prayerful. Don’t think Satan will not try to influence you to betray your mate, especially if you’re not receiving the attention you should be receiving from your husband. Women were designed to be shown compassion, love, and romance, but sometimes as the marriage grows older, the romance is not like it was when you first got married or as it was down through the years. You noticed it, and so does your Adversary. Satan is not going to come to you dressed in a red suit, tail, and horns. He’s going to come to you the way you imagined your perfect lover to look, dress, and even smell. He will also send him giving you many compliments, the attention you so desire from your spouse. Because you need and deserve the attention, he will convince you there is nothing wrong with receiving the attention and compliments from someone other than your husband.
Few people fall into adultery overnight, committing adultery is usually the result of a series of small compromises in our thoughts, choices, and behaviors. The thought will come “I will be happier with someone else”. Dwelling on the thought of how dissatisfied you are in your marriage, you will begin to seek attention from someone other than your spouse. You will be influenced that there is nothing wrong with looking at another man, as long as nothing else is allowed, but before you know it, your looks have become actions because you’re not receiving what you desire from your spouse. Although you may not be receiving what you desire from your spouse, your vow was to be with him until death, that vow is an agreement to stay with your spouse through the good times as well as the bad times, that’s including what you need emotionally and physically.
Adultery has a domino effect, it’s not just between you and the person you’re committing adultery with, it will affect your husband, children, grandchildren, as well as your extended family on your side of the family as well as he’s. God is against adultery but He will never go against a person’s will if that’s what they desire to do. Satan is against marriage, first of all, this is something that God ordained, secondly, he wants to destroy you and your marriage if you allow him. When you see that your marriage is not what you desire it to be, you can go to God in prayer, tell Him what’s going on and how you desire it to be. When a negative thought comes to your mind, dismiss it as quickly as it came into your mind. Begin to speak life into your marriage, speak the things you desire to see in your marriage, ask God to send forth angels to destroy everything that does not line up with His Word in your marriage.
Speaking negatively about your marriage will only enforce it the more against your marriage. You do not deny what is missing in your marriage, but you’re not adding fuel to it by speaking negatively. Words are actions and they will manifest whether it’s positive or negative. When Satan comes with his influence, remember you’re married, you made a vow to your spouse and God. Pray for your marriage, ask God what you should do to bring back what has been lost or dead, Jesus resurrects the dead, and He can resurrect your marriage.
Women who have been damaged by their spouse committing adultery must know it was not their fault because your husband went outside the marriage unless you drove him to it by nagging, fault-finding, criticizing, not spending enough time with him. Men need to be shown love and romance just like women, they need to feel wanted, and admired. When you have done everything you know how to keep your marriage intact, and he still betrays you, it was not you, but his insecurity. If you choose to stay with him, God can restore your marriage and make it better than it was before the betrayal. You must place your faith in God and not what happened in your marriage. If adultery is something you have been dealing with more than once, you have the right to get a divorce according to Bible principles (But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committed adultery – Matthew 5:32).
Women who influence men to betray their wives are covenant breakers and God will deal with them. Just because they may have gotten away with it for years and with many different men, God has not forgotten their ungodly deeds. The wage of sin is death, death comes in forms other than spiritual and physical death. Death in their health, finances, mental and emotional health. Drug and alcohol addiction, homelessness, can’t keep a job. You can’t bring division between a husband and wife and not be recompensed for what you have done (Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder – Matthew 19:6) Adultery, is wicked and devilish, it comes to steal, kill and destroy marriages and families.