For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy 1st Corinthians 7:14.
The blessings that flow to the believers don’t stop there, but extend to others. God regards the marriage as “sanctified” by the presence of one Christian spouse. The other does not receive salvation automatically, but is helped by this relationship. The children of such a marriage are to be regarded as Christians because of God’s blessings on the family unit until they are old enough to decide for themselves.Everyone has an appointed time to receive salvation, but sometimes as a believer we want our spouse to receive salvation at the same time we received it. Many times this doesn’t happened, and no one knows why one spouse receives salvation and the other one didn’t at the same time since they are married. It makes you wonder why, especially when you hear someone giving a testimony not long after they received salvation the spouse also received salvation. Here it is two, four, five years and more and your spouse still hasn’t received salvation in its manifestation. The waiting can be a time when your faith is being stretched as well as tried.
Ater you have waitd for some long you ask yourself, “What haven’t you done or what is it you’re doing the reason why they haven’t received salvation” It’s nothing that you’re doing or haven’t done, according to the Word of God, the Father has to draw them (No man can come to me, except the Father which hath sent me draw him: and I will raise him up at the last day – John 6:44). Once the Father draws them, its their decision whether or not to accept the gift. While you’re waiting continue to pray for God to change their hearts, pray their hearts will be open to salvation.
It can be very challenging at times because the unbeliever will not have the same values as the believer. If the believer’s heart has been regenerated, their belief is different because the believer is submitting to the Word of God whereas the unbeliever will not submit neither wants to hear the Word of God. Trying to make someone receive salvation when they don’t want to is against the principals of God. God doesn’t make anyone receive His gift. Never brow beat your spouse with the Bible, neither send them to hell in your opinion when God is working on them as well as you.
As as wife, it’s her responsibility to pray for her husband. She’s not to nag him or torment him with Scriptures. A Spirit-filled wife lifestyle will communicate Scripture to her husband because she’s submitted to the Word of God. Her speech, behavior and character is different after receiving salvation, and he will notice the change. A consistent prayer life is essential for every Christian and its outward showing of a wife’s faith when her husband hears her praying, seeing her read and study the Bible.
A wife is to be the light that draws her husband to Jesus, she can be a light or either darkness that brings confusion to his spirituality. When a wife professes to be a Christian, but lives as an unbeliever this brings confusion because the husband is going to think her lifestyle is biblically correct if he’s not familiar with the Bible. This is why so many professing Christians are living opposite of the Word of God because they base their faith on what they have seen others live rather than reading the Word of God and receive His instructions for a Christian.
No matter how difficult it may get in a marriage living with an unbeliever, it’s the responsibility of the wife to pray for her husband, and show loving-kindness. She’s not to judge him or look down on him, she’s to show the characteristics of Jesus which is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and temperance. This is what will draw him eventually to Jesus. Prayer will keep a wife with a humble and meek spirit towards her husband, this is honorable in the sight of God and will be rewarded.
Marriages are attacked whether both are believers or if one is a believer and the other one isn’t. Prayer, fasting and commitment to God’s Word will sustain a marriage no matter how stormy it may get. When one is a believer and the other one isn’t, this will bring division because one has the Spirit of God dwelling inside and the other doesn’t. This doesn’t mean the husband is a devil, but he doesn’t have the Spirit of God and the spirit of Satan that drives him will come against the spirit of God that dwells in you. There are two spirits, God’s and Satan, and we will serve one or the other (Know ye not, that to whom ye yield yourselves servants to obey, his servant ye are to whom ye obey; whether of sin unto death, or of obedience unto righteousness – Romans 6:16)?
Don’t fight with your husband, but fight against the spirit that is using your husband by prayer, fasting, and confessing the Word of God over him and your marriage. When a home has a believer, the believer must stand in the gap for her marriage, home and children, and she does this by prayer, fasting, and living out the Word of God in her lifestyle in order for the prayers to be answered. God wants to bring blessings to your husband that will only come through you. They will be fruitful blessings that will benefit you and your marriage, but He can only do it when you are in agreement with His plan. Sadly, to say, some wives will not see the salvation of their husband because some may die before seeing the promise, but the promise will come, the wife’s thought should be whether she sees it or not, continue to pray for his salvation.
God wants your husband to receive salvation more than you, He gave His Son to bring salvation to mankind, but they have to choose for themselves, the wife is an instrument to give him a desire to want salvation. God is concerned about the family, His desire for the family is to be complete with both husband and wife having salvation. No matter how long it take, continue to pray and believe God for your spouse and your household. Sometimes it may seem the more you pray the worse things get, keep praying, the adversary is trying to steal your faith because he knows without faith we can’t please God. If you loose faith, you will stop praying, and this will give Satan the opportunity to keep him bound.
Salvation will come to your spouse because of your commitment to God and His faithfulness to His Word (And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house [family] – Acts 16:31). God is concerned about family, this is why the Word of God indicates the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the believing wife. How salvation will come or when it will come, only God knows, but however way it come, God will answer the prayer of the faithful for their household.